Tony, I am now 51 and now go for six month check ups and so far everything is fine. It wont be easy for a while but stick in there, just let her know you are there even when she may push you away. Tell her I was also terrified but now when i look back I was listening to too many horror stories. I got myself so wounded that the experience actually was a doddle compared to what I expected also it is amazing the treatments they have now for this cancer. It is no longer a death sentence, believe me I am completely back to normal. Tell her I will be thinking of her, keep in contact stay positive..